Monthly Archives: December 2011
Hi 2012 and bye 2011!! Happy new year!!
Let’s pretend everything is okay until we believe it.
They say there is the need to marry a person. All I ask is why? Humans always feel the need to take things to the next level, so to speak. So that we can feel like we are making progress in our lives. Change means progress, apparently.
But not always the case, right? I don’t entirely agree with this thinking, because why do we need to formalize everything and put it into a piece of paper that defines who and what we are? From birth, to marriage, to divorce, and death. Birth, to prove that we exist in this world (somehow that sounds funny). Marriage, to prove we have had a long and fulfilling relationship with someone where there is nowhere else to go but get married eventually because that’s what everyone does. After awhile, we do get restless and search for that next step. And that’s probably why marriages are essentially doomed because there is no next step to that, and naturally people (being people) get restless and would want to try something, anything other than it. So people cheat, and although not everyone cheats in body, everyone cheats in their minds. This is definitely undeniable. Thus the need for divorce papers. Although not everyone has the same fate because two people can stay together for the silliest reasons for all we know. But when two people decide to go their separate ways, they need something that erases their label in the society as ‘married people’ to ‘divorced-hence-single’ people. This labeling is of course to enjoy the privileges of whatever the label brings.
To say I have nothing against the issues mentioned might seem contradicting. But I really don’t. I’m merely trying to make a point. That we can all try our best to be defined by our deeds. Instead of letting words, or pieces of paper define us, let our actions do it, you know? Why go through all the fuss of the processes of obtaining a label the society deems important when all we will do is act otherwise? Take the next step, if you must, but don’t put shame on the label by doing things that totally contradict what the label stands for.
So it’s Christmas and I’m having a really bad day. Don’t get me wrong, I am happy, not joyful but okay-happy. And God knows I’m not being ungrateful, He knows exactly what is going on and will not accuse me of being ungrateful because I have so many blessings to be thankful for. Hoping the victims of Sendong still have faith and hope, after such a tragedy.
What if? What if I’m unhappy? And I blame myself, of course, because I’m supposed to be responsible for my own happiness. But is it always that simple? I mean if we’re unhappy, should we just quit our jobs, break off relationships, hurt people just because we are and should be responsible for own happiness? In my opinion that wouldn’t be the right way to pursue happiness because we’d be allowing ourselves the dangerous habit of discontent. After all, “happiness”, simply put, means things are going our way, isn’t it? Why can’t life be just black and white? There are too many gray areas. It’s all too confusing at times.